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Anger Management Help and FAQs

Anger is an emotion that everyone feels to some extent. It may start out with a sense of frustration or disappointment. Anger can quickly get out of control. But, we believe that the emotion of anger is an energy which can be transformed into something good. People can learn to direct anger into faith, assertiveness, problem-solving, empathy and forgiveness. Christians can learn to express a godly and righteous anger when triggered by frustrating events and people. Read more about how to manage anger..Listen to the Quick Tips for Managing Anger podcasts!

Understanding Anger – © 2017 by Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC

1. How can I tell when my anger is getting out of control?

Simply stated, you can tell you have a problem with anger when:.. it is too frequent… it is too intense… it lasts too long… it leads to aggression… it disturbs work or relationships… it causes you to feel out of touch with God… it is contrary to scripture.

2. Can someone or something cause me to get angry? 

A good analogy is this dialogue between children: “The five year-old was showing a Kindergarten classmate the new weight scale in the bathroom. “What’s it for?” the visitor asked. “I don’t know” the five year-old replied. “all I know is, when you stand on it, it makes you very mad.” Someone or something can seem to make us angry, but God holds us responsible for our reactions, as we read in Col. 3:8: “But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander,” At first we blame the person or situation for our anger, when in reality we choose to be angry based on the beliefs we hold about a particular event.

3. When is anger good?

In Nehemiah 5:6-7, Nehemiah’s angry reaction to social injustice helps him take positive action to confront the oppressive officials in Israel and reverse the injustice. When Jesus was in the Temple He threw out the money-changers & tax collectors to cleanse His Father’s house of corruption. God’s anger is always righteous and holy bringing about justice, and even punishment at times. In Ephesians 4:26, Paul tells us to be angry, but not to sin or keep holding onto anger. “In your anger do not sin; Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” (NIV) Anger is good when God is in control of it, and in control of our behavior and thoughts. Anger can give us energy to act according to God’s will, and help us express our thoughts and feelings in honest but loving ways. Anger can help motivate us to resolve problems and conflict.

The problem is that we still have a difficult time controlling our anger and giving God control of our actions when we are angry, even as Christians.
What’s Good About Anger will help you learn your triggers, the sources of anger and how to trust that God is able to provide you with power and wisdom to handle situations which precipitate your anger.

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© copyright 2017 by Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC, CAMS-V. All Rights reserved. No part of this site may be reprinted, transmitted or reproduced by any means without prior permision of the authors/publisher.

These programs and resources are offered by Lynette J. Hoy, a National Certified Counselor, experienced Marriage and Family Counselor, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, a Diplomate, Supervisor, Consultant and Certified Anger Management Specialist-V with the National Anger Management Association, Crisis Counselor and Anger Management Specialist.
Co-author of What’s Good About Anger? Mrs. Hoy has trained hundreds of students and clients in anger and conflict management.

Contact Lynette Hoy at 630-368-1880 or by mail at:

Lynette Hoy,
1200 Harger Road, Suite 602,
Oak Brook, Illinois 60523 USA
630-368-1880, ext. 1
Fax: 630.530.2066


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